"Love without understanding, is an imperfect love"

Only by understanding what your partner’s really like and what his/her unconscious really demands can we understand …. And understanding is the foundation of love.

In most occasions couples are formed with different morphologies and psychologies and therefore they are at the same time complementary and antagonistic; this is due to the unconscious attraction that the most repressed side of our personality puts into practise. We desire what we don’t have; the repressed tendency performs a double action of the unconscious over the conscious “Me”: at the same time it confuses and fascinates. When projection has occurred composing couples with antagonistic personalities, they have been attracted to each other due to this same fascination which each one suffers due to their unconscious. If the couple has been formed on the strength of the unconscious attraction, it’s necessary to point out that conscious opposition remains, and this will be the origin of conflicts, which will lead to, sooner or later, facing each other and, therefore, splitting up, since “attraction doesn’t mean agreeing”. On the basis of this attraction and at the same time complementary polarities, I can put as an example the positive cable and the negative cable of light that if they are not well managed from a start they can reject each other. But if we acknowledge that each one carries out its function a creative energy can be given.     

With morphopsychology we can detect these polarities from the first moment and:

Couples that are in love and want to raise a home with maximum continuity it’s of vital importance that at that magical moment of falling in love they visit a morphopsychologist to make them aware of what they’re like in order to get to know each other, understand each other and  accept each other so that their happiness and love should  be more perfect and lasting. When one is in love it’s easier to assimilate and resume something. When love has broken up or disappeared it’s nearly impossible to reappear with the same person.

If a couple is already formed, at the first disagreement they should see a morphopsychologist immediately. He/she will verify if their love has disappeared or not. If it has not disappeared they will be made conscious of their unconscious. The unconscious, as I’ve said before,  is responsible for disagreements. They are made conscious of their real necessities and when they both understand, they can give a step towards giving up a small part of themselves in benefit of the other. When we know, we understand, and when we understand the other’s problems we can do something for them. As I said before, understanding is the foundation of true love.   
People who have been unfortunate in their marriage and want to repeat another experience with another couple it would be very advisable, due to what I have already explained, to visit a morphopsychologist to get to know themselves better and guide and improve their destiny:

When finding ourselves alone we think that by finding an ideal companion (according to our criteria, of course) we will be really happy. Than we search and, one day we find the person that we think is suitable. We feel really happy…  for a time. Then the clouds appear in our blue sky.  At that moment various situations can occur: for example, the most common, the charming prince and princess are each time less charming to each other to the point that they ask themselves how they could ever have seen the other charming. Then,  or we put up with an unsatisfactory relationship (we will be in the same situation as when we were alone, unsatisfied and unhappy) or we end up breaking up and we find ourselves at the beginning of the cycle, alone and unsatisfied. Automatically, without thinking for a moment, we go and search for another person that, finally, will fulfil our happiness…  We start the cycle from the beginning, and we go through the whole process again to find ourselves in the same phase of unhappiness (alone) sooner or later.

What can also happen is that, after having searched and searched, we find the person who we’ve always dreamed with, and with no doubt will be incredibly happy with. This person becomes so important and valuable to us that we tie ourselves down, we depend on them, and become demanding, jealous, possessive and anxious. Our conduct becomes so oppressive to the other, that finally, they decide to leave. And we find ourselves alone again. We think it’s bad luck, or the other’s fault; we’ll try to do it better the next time, but we don’t know how. We start searching again for that rare pearl that this time, we will tie down, so that they won’t leave! … and of course the same dynamic occurs. And we will finally find ourselves alone again. It can also occur that the other, takes advantage of this dependence and stays,  in which case we bear an alienating relationship which can also make one suffer.

But that dynamic is not inevitable. It’s possible to create really privileged relationships or really satisfactory life situations. It’s not a question of circumstances, if not of conscious. The insatisfaction cycle is inevitable if the ego is trapped.